Like many people, I used to think that when I finally got the husband/job/salary/house/car/Brazilian weave/Prada bag/Jimmy Choo shoes/lose weight… I would finally be happy. Well, several years later I have most of those things (still hoping for the Jimmy Choos) but I must admit I am STILL looking for happiness.

More recently, I have become aware that happiness is not so much about the things I acquire; rather it comes from the inside out and encompasses more than the physical; it also includes my mental/emotional and spiritual state.

This is because human beings are not one-dimensional. So for me (and everyone else) to experience true happiness, we must consider ourselves as whole beings made up of physical, mental/emotional and spiritual components.

Considering the everyday struggles we face, that sounds like a really delicate balance and it’s no surprise that so few have managed to achieve it. And no wonder we all get shocked whenever someone who appears to have it all together – great job, car, house, spouse, friends etc – has a mental breakdown.

I once heard someone say that the human body is not good at hiding whatever is going on inside. So no matter how many lotions and potions we use, if we have unresolved ‘issues’, they will end up showing in one way or another – through acne, rashes, insomnia, depression or recurrent illnesses that doctors just can’t seem to pin down and treat.

Here’s another startling truth – you cannot hide mental/emotional or spiritual problems for long. Eventually, they will manifest, and usually as physical symptoms. For instance, you could be fearful of something negative happening to you. This could be losing your job, getting robbed, experiencing an earthquake, or you could even be afraid of the dark!

This constant state of anxiety keeps you on edge and might lead to an inability to sleep, which might in turn affect your appetite and compromise your overall physical health. The lack of sleep could also affect your productivity at work, which could see you fired – the very thing you feared in the first place! And if you have people around you who don’t understand, this could lead to emotional problems as well.

Seeking medical attention may alleviate the physical symptoms but not solve the real problem, which is fear. So in this case, your state of mind (mental/emotional) ends up affecting your whole life. While all this is happening, you could be living what appears to be the dream life… but you are actually miserable!

That is what makes wellbeing such an elusive but much sought after state – if you want it, you must look at the whole, and sometimes people don’t want to go too deep into themselves lest they discover things they don’t like, or because they have buried painful experiences and are not ready, or willing, to exhume them.

And so my search continues. I am currently working on my diet and exercise as well as exploring and building my faith. Most recently, I have begun to examine and challenge the beliefs I have always held about life, and the results are very interesting. I am not there yet, but I believe I am finally on the way to achieving what I was looking for. And I am enjoying the journey.

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      If life is not lived from the desires, joy’s, appreciation’s, warmth and sincerity of one’s heart, it will show on your body………………Nothing takes away the taste of good food than an unsettled, robbed or insincere hearted living (Even salt get’s over done……and fingers easily get cut in kitchen’s…………Now imagine the cost to relationships and or own life when it comes to driving)

      If one’s heart doesn’t guide their wellness, their body will lead them to hospital’s

      As for fear of letting go and giving one self to their hearts – If you can laugh at a good joke, then know that there’s nothing in you that you fear that will kill you (You may breakdown in heart and tears, but no one knows how to mend a heart back together than the same heart that is alive enough to hear, relate , appreciate and laugh at good jokes)
      Slowly get back to good comedies and happy company over a period of six to ten months (Take your time as led by the sincerity of your heart over your conscious fears)……When you finally accept that you still have laughter in you, then, and only then, allow yourself to accept that there’s nothing in you that can or will grow the strength to kill you (Fear is what keep’s us from life, love and good tasting food……………………It’s time for the sincere hearted to get their health back 🙂

      The above worked for me – That’s why I recommend it.

      Warning: It will, completely change your current life and health for the better………..Including loving what onion’s, tomatoes and common sense spices do to food, the sugar in fruit, good music, warmer clothes, evening walks, sleep………..Full Circle Relationships (Where you get loved back) thanks to better company…………….in short Healthy Living 🙂

      I wish you heart and it’s loving life.

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